What I have come to appreciate more deeply over the last two years is that development as a person does not stop once we become an adult. My parents were my first trusted guides when I was a child and I developed slowly over time, as all children do. I lost them both tragically just after I reached adulthood. I had to go by their early teachings as I navigated the adult world. I was lucky to have received a good foundation from them, a good education and good genes. They all served me well and gave me confidence to carry on as a young adult.
Then ten years ago, after my own kids were grown, I started learning Taoist Tai Chi® arts. I came at first for the physical practice, but I soon realized that I was getting much more from it. Every so often, after getting involved in some new aspect of the organization, I would think ‘OK, now I understand what this is.’ But now I know that his teachings can’t be fully understood or explained in a few words. There is always more.
This practice provides stability, support and assurance to me as an adult, similar to what my family provided when I was a child. The rituals offer comfortable patterns to life, the daily physical practice improves my physical health and stability, and the encouragement from leadership to develop good habits and let go of worry provides the support needed to keep improving.
I have taken to heart the lesson to look inward at my own rough spots – places that are in need of improvement. I am assured that it takes time – one percent – and I am encouraged to go easy on myself (and on others) while having the discipline to keep at it. I am learning to look inward and trust my feelings – my heart, and I have developed more confidence. Knowing that I am OK allows me to not worry about myself and instead look outward to discover what I can do to help others.
I am grateful to have found his teachings for new guidance on the path to becoming a better adult.
